4rtem499 So I (f27) was making dinner for my boyfriend (m29) last night. It wasn’t anything fancy, just pasta with homemade sauce, salad, garlic bread. Halfway through the meal he says, “This is good, but you’ll never be wife material until you can cook like my mom.” I literally froze. I asked what that meant, and he doubled down saying, “Well, she cooks everything from scratch, three courses, homemade dessert, it’s just… different.” I told him it was rude to compare me to his mom and that if he wanted her food, he should go eat at her place. Now he’s mad, saying I “overreacted” and that he was just being “honest about standards.” I genuinely feel disrespected. Am I overreacting for thinking that was completely inappropriate to say to someone you supposedly love?

whatthewhat3214 Start calling him Oepidus and tell him he should go back to living with his mom bc he's not ready for an adult relationship, which is supposed to be a partnership.

And tell him HE'S welcome to cook everything from scratch if he wants. Tell him he's incredibly sexist to think that's your job, there's nothing stopping him from cooking like this if that's the kind of food he wants.

And then after you pack your things to leave him, on the way out the door tell him to remember the year is 2025, and women have better things to do than wait on a man like it's the 19th century. That microwaves and meal shortcuts and other modern conveniences were invented so women didn't have to spend a majority of their days slaving over a hot stove and keeping up a house (I'm guessing he expects you to do that too) and doing all the childcare like indentured domestic servants. Tell him to grow up and stop acting like a boy who needs and expects his partner to act like his mom and take care of him. What exactly does he do to take care of you, right?