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Depop’s dirty little secret: Men are buying your used underwear - nordicmodelnow - May 8 2025
“The writer Brook Urick recently appeared on Louise Perry’s podcast; she had both been a “sugarbaby” and had worked for the sugardaddy dating website Seeking Arrangements. Clearly, there is a greater degree of mutuality in such an arrangement than in unsolicited sexual messages on a clothes-selling platform; nevertheless a revelation from that episode had broader resonances here. Urick suggested that the male users exploited young women’s naïveté about the sex industry: many believed in the website’s self-promoted status as a dating platform and not a prostitution site, and many were convinced that they would not have to sleep with or even touch the older men who hired them — and that they’d be whisked away to Aruba or Cabo to boot. They believed in marketing which told them they could get something for nothing. Many were, inevitably, convinced to negotiate on these boundaries; many were fleeced, some were raped. The point, Urick said, was the deception: the men enjoyed not just the company of attractive young women but the attrition of their boundaries. The girls, many of them “nice” college students — not the wily, experienced prostitutes also available to the men — were more attractive prospects because they were vulnerable to beguilement: half of the gratification lay in their naïveté. Now look to the villains of Vinted. They mine at risk of recriminations or being reported for the same reason: the discomfort, the sense of transgression and risk, the snare. Availability breeds boredom, so true transgression comes at a premium.”
Read more: https://unherd.com/2025/05/depops-dirty-little-secret/
RE: Depop’s dirty little secret: Men are buying your used underwear - Elsacat - May 8 2025
I've never sold items on Depop, Vinted, or the other newer platforms. But it's been known in the eBay world for years now, we could probably even say "decades" at this point, that you don't sell second-hand underwear even if it's clean - unless you're looking for those type of men and those type of sales. (which will get sellers banned from the platform if they're too obvious about it)
Second-hand socks and shoes also bring creeps even for legit listings, with men asking women and even some male sellers to provide photos of them "modeling" the footwear and wanting it to be thoroughly worn and unwashed before it's shipped. Lingerie, swimwear, and skimpy dresses probably bring the same pervs.
I wouldn't even sell new-in-package underwear on any of those sites.