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“Why do men show so little interest in the inner lives of women?” - Clover - Aug 6 2025

r/emotionalintelligence: https://www.reddit.com/r/emotionalintelligence/comments/1mjcagk/why_do_men_show_so_little_interest_in_the_inner/

Frequently_Abroad_00 It’s rare to meet a man who asks with curiosity about a woman’s stories, feelings, opinions, and other intricacies of a woman’s inner world. My experience has been that I’m asked factual information (where I am from, what do i do), and these questions leave the impression that I’m being screened for “are you good enough”. And then it stops there. As long as I play nice and smile and meet the expectations, there’s little interest in my inner world. I get listened to if I decide to share , but almost nobody appears interested to explore anything, unless I straightforward say I’m upset or my behavior displays it. It makes me feel like I’m there to fulfill a role and, as long as I am pleasant, what happens inside my soul and mind is insignificant. That makes me feel uninteresting but, mostly, lonely, even when there’s someone in my physical presence.

Are men generally not very interested in what’s going on inside a woman’s soul and mind, as long as the outward behavior is what the man hopes to see?

VFTM Because they legitimately do not care

WeenyDancer They don't think women are people

Ambitious_Ad3253 these men see us more like accessories, something you get because it's time for a relationship or they want to settle down and have a woman to cook and start a family with. these kinds of men don't think relationships should be started because you fall in love with the personality and experiences of a person, more like they found someone attractive and stable enough to start a family with when they decide it's time.

Ding ding ding to VTFM and WeenyDancer. 🏅 https://reddit.com/comments/1mjcagk/comment/n79zatl


RE: “Why do men show so little interest in the inner lives of women?” - Elsacat - Aug 6 2025

I don't know that men show a lot of interest in other men's inner worlds, either. Men in general don't seem to think or care much about "inner worlds" except for their own.


RE: “Why do men show so little interest in the inner lives of women?” - Magpie - Aug 7 2025

This reminds me of a post from years ago on a different reddit sub, r/changemyview. If you don't know the sub, the point is to voice an opinion and then the commenters get a chance to try and prove you wrong, winning points if they succeed. Anyway, this guy made a post saying that he didn't believe women are conscious like men are. The post itself got deleted, but you can still see OP arguing about it in the comments: https://www.reddit.com/r/changemyview/comments/9l0mf3/cmv_im_not_entirely_convinced_women_are_sentient/?st=JMTGG4DQ&sh=655a34fd

All this to say, why would men be interested in your inner life if they don't think you have one? Women like the OOP make the mistake of assuming that men think about women the same way they think about men.


RE: “Why do men show so little interest in the inner lives of women?” - Impress Polly - Aug 7 2025

Men literally rent women's bodies and call themselves feminists. Feel the empathy.