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“My MIL secretly pierced my baby’s ears without telling us” - Clover - Sep 16 2025
Eight-month-old female baby gets her ears stabbed in the name of beauty culture. Welcome to the world, baby girl.
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Internal_Teach_7032 I (29F) left my 8-month-old daughter with my MIL (56F) for an afternoon so I could run errands. When I came back, my baby had pierced ears. I nearly fainted.
My MIL said, “It’s a cultural thing, she looks so much prettier now,” like she did me a favor. I was livid, we never discussed this, and I never would’ve consented. My baby cried for hours that night from the pain.
My husband (30M) is furious too, but his mom keeps doubling down saying, “it’s my granddaughter, I get a say.”
I honestly don’t know if I can ever trust her alone with my baby again.
RE: “My MIL secretly pierced my baby’s ears without telling us” - Elsacat - Sep 16 2025
I don't know why anyone pierces a baby's ears. Why put a young child through that? If they're not old enough to ask for piercings and understand that there's initial pain and some maintenance involved, they're not old enough to make the decision. And they should never have pierced ears if it isn't their idea.
RE: “My MIL secretly pierced my baby’s ears without telling us” - Clover - Sep 17 2025
(Yesterday, 7:10 PM)Elsacat If they're not old enough to ask for piercings and understand that there's initial pain and some maintenance involved, they're not old enough to make the decision. And they should never have pierced ears if it isn't their idea.
Seriously... I don't understand how it's not illegal for piercing places to do piercings on babies/young children, and not considered child abuse for anyone to do it...