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Terry Martin Hekker, Whose First Book Praised Stay-at-Home Moms, Dies at 92 - eyeswideopen - Nov 21 2025

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/terry-martin-hekker-whose-first-book-praised-stay-at-home-moms-dies-at-92/ar-AA1QTCkP

Quote:Her first book, published in 1979 was called “Ever Since Adam & Eve: The Satisfactions of Housewifery and Motherhood in the Age of Do-Your-Own-Thing.” It touted the gifts of motherhood and the rewards of housekeeping in an era where women had long come to accept feminist philosophies espoused decades earlier by a former Grandview-on-Hudson neighbor named Betty Friedan.

The book garnered national attention, appearances on talk shows like “Today” and interviews with the likes of Charlie Rose and Dinah Shore.

Then, after 40 years of marriage, a divorce left her bereft and broke.

The experience bred another book, a sequel of sorts to the first, that was published in 2009. It was called “Disregard First Book.”

Appreciate that she was courageous enough to acknowledge her mistake.

First NY Times opinion essay: (1977)

https://www.nytimes.com/1977/12/20/archives/the-satisfactions-of-housewifery-and-motherhood-in-an-age-of.html

Second (2006, post-divorce)

https://www.nytimes.com/2006/01/01/fashion/sundaystyles/paradise-lost-domestic-division.html

Audio interview with her in 2006:

https://www.wbur.org/onpoint/2006/01/12/a-warning-from-a-desperate-houswife


RE: Careers Terry Martin Hekker, Whose First Book Praised Stay-at-Home Moms, Dies at 92 - eyeswideopen - Nov 21 2025

Archive links for the NYTimes articles:

https://archive.ph/TTrEd

https://archive.ph/4wQN6


RE: Terry Martin Hekker, Whose First Book Praised Stay-at-Home Moms, Dies at 92 - Elsacat - Nov 22 2025

I've never heard of her before but enjoyed her 2006 essay you linked to. I love that her follow-up book was indeed titled "Disregard First Book."

In this time of tradwife influencers and pushes to bring back the Christian Conservative Family, it's a good idea for women to revisit the wisdom of those who trod the path before and found it unexpectedly full of tigers at the end.