Quote:Indeed, a major gripe I have with anti-feminists is that they make it harder to achieve policy wins for moms and dads at home. In my own work advocating for homemakers, I can attest that it is extremely difficult to convince centrist and left-of-center lawmakers to support measures supporting stay-at-home parents when they fear these policies are actually a Trojan horse for trying to kick women back to the kitchen. There are many practical measures we could take to help these parents, including encouraging corporations to hire at-home parents who want to return to work, considering how to reform our Social Security system to better protect homemakers, or how to reform our 401(k) system to better protect “traditional families.” All these and more become fraught, though, when the question shifts away from helping families make the choices that work for them, and instead becomes: Are we trying to protect stay-at-home moms, or are we trying to force girlbosses into roles that they don’t want? Even reasonable measures can fail to gain traction when they are sucked up into a broader culture war.