writin_myassoff I had a sudden medical emergency and when I told my husband I was going to the ER he replied with what am I supposed to get her for breakfast?

We were babysitting our four year old granddaughter and I’ll spare you the gory details but will just say sudden diverticulitis with bleeding, first time ever, and only diagnosed after I got to the hospital. I was in serious pain and as you can probably guess I was very scared. It was morning and we hadn’t had breakfast yet, although I had made her popcorn (in pain, but not scared yet) because we have this funny tradition called popcorn for breakfast, followed by a good breakfast.

Like the title says, when I went to him and quietly said, I need to go to the hospital his response was “what am I supposed to get her for breakfast?” he knew that I had been in pain for a couple of days and was just figuring it was a stomach bug or something that would go away.

Maybe the most amazing thing about this is that during college he worked at a pancake house and was the ‘egg and pancake guy’. My reason for posting this is so that any of you who are early into a relationship and not being treated with the kindness and respect you deserve, get the fuck out.

He’s not going to get nicer over the years. Even if he seems compassionate now, do your best to make sure that’s how he really is. Believe me, there’s no guarantee. Married 40+ years.

souprunknwn I work in the legal field and have never seen so many what we call "grey divorces" as I've seen in the last five years.

It's never too late to leave. Almost all of the divorces I've been seeing in couples over the age of 55ish are initiated by the women and not the men.

100% of the women are leaving due to weaponized incompetence, abuse/repeated cheating by the husband, long-term stress and exhaustion. All of them have gone on to live much better lives after the divorces were finished.