r/SanDiego: “As a black woman in SD, I’m terrified”. - Clover - Nov 09 2024
https://www.reddit.com/r/sandiego/comments/1gmhjk8/as_a_black_woman_in_sd_im_terrified/
inameena-mineymo I don't feel safe.
I don't feel like white people understand why and how I feel this.
I live and work in predominately white spaces. The amount of times I've broken down at work this week is unsettleting.
Do you understand that black women want peace? Do you understand that we want control over our lives and futures? We want a safe place for our children? We don't want people to suffer like we have over and over and over again?
Now I've had enough interactions in San Diego to know that people say one thing and act differently. This is my experience.
My life isn't a joke. I have truly experienced racism, misogyny, mistreatment, sexual abuse, physical abuse. I am so tired.
Stereotypically, I'm the "safe" black person. I know you know what I mean. I keep quiet, I'm not "loud" or "aggressive", I'm apparently comfortable or palettable to most white people because the insane things white people have felt at ease to say to my face just makes me so sad.
I'm scared.
How far back do people want to "make this country great again"?
Who was this country great for?
As a proud Haitian-American, I've had to tell my white students that it's not true that Haitians eat dogs and cats. Why do I have to tell my students this??
My parents came to this country (legally, which took forever and lots of money they didn't have & that strain effected them to the point where the stress killed my mom). They didn't want to leave their home but had to. No one wants to leave their home unless they have to.
I feel so disrespected. I feel like I can't trust any person.
This is not about republicans or democrats or Jill stein.
Why can't we accept the differences of others?
What have POC done so bad that makes white people so angry? Why do people hate Hispanics and blacks and Arabs and (insert anything other than white here) so much?
Wasn't the country founded on the principles of freedoms?
Why can't people love who they love?
Why are we doing this? Where is the community?
I don't know what to do. I'm terrified. I'm tired.
*******EDIT: As of 6:17am, I will no longer be responding to comments. I will leave this up so people can see what has been said. As I tell my students everyday and will continue to say to them:
-be good people
-make good choices and,
-have a great day.
RE: r/SanDiego: “As a black woman in SD, I’m terrified”. - ShannaBanana - Nov 17 2024
This is sad to read. I feel for this woman. I am a woman of color and it saddens me deeply. I can understand a lot of what she is saying regarding "being the safe one". We were never supposed to live in a world where the stress of being hated can quite literally kill you. The mental trauma is too much sometimes. It is a silent killer. Thank you for posting.
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