Quote:The researchers found that boys were more likely than girls to report experiencing orgasm during masturbation. Approximately 86% of boys reported having orgasms while masturbating, compared to 72% of girls. This difference highlights an “orgasm gap” that extends even to solo sexual experiences. Boys were also more likely than girls to achieve orgasm during partnered sex. Girls reported greater difficulty reaching orgasm with a partner, particularly in heterosexual relationships.

Girls were less likely than boys to receive oral sex, consistent with previous research suggesting that male pleasure is often prioritized in heterosexual encounters. Girls, on the other hand, reported receiving manual stimulation more frequently than boys.

sweetsadnsensual I didn't have an orgasm with anyone until I was 19 or so and I honestly didn't enjoy sex until I was like 24. I didn't really start enjoying it until I was 34 though. the ability to get myself off was always something I could do but I never really felt encouraged or welcome to translate that to partnered sex (I was also sleeping with men I didn't find physically or sexually attractive until I was in my 30s).

ZombieSurvivor365 > “I was also sleeping with men I didn’t find physically or sexually attractive”

Why not? Why sleep with someone if you don’t find them attractive? I don’t mean this in a demeaning way I’m actually just curious about it.

sweetsadnsensual I wanted the safety of a relationship when I was in my 20s and younger and believed that females 'didn't need' to be physically attracted in a strong way to their partners, and that that kind of stimulation came from "feeling loved."  then I finally found a loving relationship and had to admit to myself that he honestly turned me off physically and that it made me not want him sexually. now, I look at men physically and sexually far earlier when I assess them for how I'm going to know them, like, it's like a leading qualifier rather than background criteria for what I could want with them in my life, if that makes sense.

I honestly think a lot of women probably are not physically attracted to their partners and have just chosen companionship, thinking its too hard to find a man they're actually passionate about. if a woman wants to actually be turned on by men, in my experience, you have to put up with really long periods of being single to find a relationship that can provide that. like, years.

GiovanaBanana >Why not? Why sleep with someone if you don’t find them attractive?

Low self esteem and hypersexualization. I've had similar experiences, young girls get weird contradictory messaging where they're told they're good for nothing else besides providing men pleasure, at the same they're berated for wanting to feel pleasure themselves. The result is girls presenting their body for sex with men while not knowing what they even like.