Social Media “Tomboys are a thing. Tired of being asked my sexuality or having it assumed just because of what I wear”
Social Media “Tomboys are a thing. Tired of being asked my sexuality or having it assumed just because of what I wear”
May 3 2025, 3:10 PM
trash_pandaxx I'm a tomboy. No more , no less. I'm NOT gay. Or bi. Or queer. Or gender fluid . Or "butch" or whatever cute/catchy little buzzword is trending today. And I'm tired of being asked it every time I wear a t-shirt and jeans. I'm JUST a fucking tomboy. I wear what I want, WHEN I want. I WILL be comfortable. And clothes can't fuck. So they shouldn't give anyone any ideas of what I might be down for. But that's something that's been argued for a while even in the LGBTQ community. I've even heard people say that the term is offensive. Since when did that term become derogatory? Or 'offensive'? To WHO? I guess i understand since literally everything is "offensive" nowadays.
I also hate that there don't seem to be anymore tomboy characters in tv/movies anymore, they just make them lesbian. Which is fine sometimes bc that absolutely needs representation too, but sometimes it comes across as lazy writing in my opinion. I feel like that could send the wrong message to kids in kids movies/tv; that every single girl that wears jeans instead of dresses is gay. Sure some might be and that's great. But what about tomboys? I guess I just wanna know what happened to the "in between"? lol. It seems to be very either or nowadays. Rant over. And absolutely no hate intended, I absolutely rock with my LGBTQ+ folk 🤘🏾
♀️🏅Honorary TERF posts:
NathanDavie This is my feminist world. Dress and behave however you want. It shouldn't define anything about you.
Affectionate_Name522 Feminine men and masculine women are
Policed horribly by society. Just be yourself. And tell them to mind their own.
Helpful-Chemical9371 This.
Got unprompted questioned by a psychiatrist about my "feelings of gender inadequacy" when I tried to seek help for panic attacks/extreme anxiety during college. I was going through burnout in college and suffering with chronic stress from studying and working full time - I said nothing about sexuality or dysphoria and she only asked me because of how I looked and dressed.
F-off with your "blue/pants is for boys, pink/skirts is for girls and everyone that dresses differently must be gay/trans" mentality. I dress how I feel like and an outfit doesn't change who I am.awolthesea Fr can't tell you how many times I was told I "might be trans" on the internet growing up. Like ... no? I'm still a girl, just dress and act more masculine than most. It definitely fucked with my sense of identity as a young teen.
kuromoon0 same here. it really messed with my head and made me really depressed. why cant i be allowed to exist in the body i was born in, while not being a female gender stereotype? it honestly feels really regressive
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trash_pandaxx I'm a tomboy. No more , no less. I'm NOT gay. Or bi. Or queer. Or gender fluid . Or "butch" or whatever cute/catchy little buzzword is trending today. And I'm tired of being asked it every time I wear a t-shirt and jeans. I'm JUST a fucking tomboy. I wear what I want, WHEN I want. I WILL be comfortable. And clothes can't fuck. So they shouldn't give anyone any ideas of what I might be down for. But that's something that's been argued for a while even in the LGBTQ community. I've even heard people say that the term is offensive. Since when did that term become derogatory? Or 'offensive'? To WHO? I guess i understand since literally everything is "offensive" nowadays.
I also hate that there don't seem to be anymore tomboy characters in tv/movies anymore, they just make them lesbian. Which is fine sometimes bc that absolutely needs representation too, but sometimes it comes across as lazy writing in my opinion. I feel like that could send the wrong message to kids in kids movies/tv; that every single girl that wears jeans instead of dresses is gay. Sure some might be and that's great. But what about tomboys? I guess I just wanna know what happened to the "in between"? lol. It seems to be very either or nowadays. Rant over. And absolutely no hate intended, I absolutely rock with my LGBTQ+ folk 🤘🏾
♀️🏅Honorary TERF posts:
NathanDavie This is my feminist world. Dress and behave however you want. It shouldn't define anything about you.
Affectionate_Name522 Feminine men and masculine women are
Policed horribly by society. Just be yourself. And tell them to mind their own.
Helpful-Chemical9371 This.
Got unprompted questioned by a psychiatrist about my "feelings of gender inadequacy" when I tried to seek help for panic attacks/extreme anxiety during college. I was going through burnout in college and suffering with chronic stress from studying and working full time - I said nothing about sexuality or dysphoria and she only asked me because of how I looked and dressed.
F-off with your "blue/pants is for boys, pink/skirts is for girls and everyone that dresses differently must be gay/trans" mentality. I dress how I feel like and an outfit doesn't change who I am.awolthesea Fr can't tell you how many times I was told I "might be trans" on the internet growing up. Like ... no? I'm still a girl, just dress and act more masculine than most. It definitely fucked with my sense of identity as a young teen.
kuromoon0 same here. it really messed with my head and made me really depressed. why cant i be allowed to exist in the body i was born in, while not being a female gender stereotype? it honestly feels really regressive
Kozlik's regular member account. 🍀🐐