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Social Media r/Teachers: “"boymom" attitude among educators”

Social Media r/Teachers: “"boymom" attitude among educators”

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Dec 12 2025, 2:10 AM
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thecooliestone I'm noticing a big push recently in my district to save the boys. There are four different mentorship programs for the boys. Every male teacher gets to do whatever they want, with no expectations, because we need men to mentor the boys. Coaches are always teacher of the year because they mentor the boys.

I pointed out that we'd had several middle school girls end up pregnant last year, and could we get some real mentorship for them too. Word for word my principal replied "Well the girls will be alright in the end. They usually are. It's the boys who really need us."

I watch teachers fawn over boys doing the bare minimum while girls are doing twice as much on the daily. Boys who are ruining education for everyone are given a single day of ISS under the table, while a girl who does anything out of line gets 3 days of documented suspension. I understand that boys are falling behind in aggregate, but it really feels like a lot of female admin have sons and just assume that girls will figure themselves out while we need to baby the boys.
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thecooliestone I'm noticing a big push recently in my district to save the boys. There are four different mentorship programs for the boys. Every male teacher gets to do whatever they want, with no expectations, because we need men to mentor the boys. Coaches are always teacher of the year because they mentor the boys.

I pointed out that we'd had several middle school girls end up pregnant last year, and could we get some real mentorship for them too. Word for word my principal replied "Well the girls will be alright in the end. They usually are. It's the boys who really need us."

I watch teachers fawn over boys doing the bare minimum while girls are doing twice as much on the daily. Boys who are ruining education for everyone are given a single day of ISS under the table, while a girl who does anything out of line gets 3 days of documented suspension. I understand that boys are falling behind in aggregate, but it really feels like a lot of female admin have sons and just assume that girls will figure themselves out while we need to baby the boys.

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Dec 12 2025, 11:12 AM
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That's how it was in school in the 1980s, and I think a return to the over arching attitudes of "Boys can't, Girls won't  is absolute regression.
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Dec 12 2025, 11:12 AM #2

That's how it was in school in the 1980s, and I think a return to the over arching attitudes of "Boys can't, Girls won't  is absolute regression.

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Dec 12 2025, 11:27 AM
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Perhaps we should return to segregated classrooms. I never heard my mother or my grandmothers complain about it.
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Dec 12 2025, 11:27 AM #3

Perhaps we should return to segregated classrooms. I never heard my mother or my grandmothers complain about it.

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We need girls-only schools so badly. I strongly dislike teaching boys, but teaching girls is usually very fulfilling.
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We need girls-only schools so badly. I strongly dislike teaching boys, but teaching girls is usually very fulfilling.

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"I understand that boys are falling behind in aggregate"....

Imagine how much further behind they'd be if they weren't given special treatment.  :psycholaugh: 

Yes, we need free, publicly-funded girls-only schools.
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"I understand that boys are falling behind in aggregate"....

Imagine how much further behind they'd be if they weren't given special treatment.  :psycholaugh: 

Yes, we need free, publicly-funded girls-only schools.

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I'm instinctively against girl's only schools, but only because where I'm from, girls only schools go one of two ways. Either the best in the city but with teachers that will indoctrinate you how being a teacher or nurse is the only way to go for women (none of that boy engineering crap), or full of religious crap that means that though they're teaching well, they're also brainwashing girls into wanting to cook for your husband, stay at home, marry, have kids, etc.

I was happy to study in co-ed schools for the simple reason that I knew I was studying the same as the boys. I know this isn't a concern in the west now, but that's just my instinctive reaction. Considering that this isn't an issue here, I think it'd be great for girls to have their own spaces, if this issue can be avoided.

It does amuse me though how so many people used to think boys were better at a myriad of things, but once we got a semblance of equality, they lose every single time academically.
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I'm instinctively against girl's only schools, but only because where I'm from, girls only schools go one of two ways. Either the best in the city but with teachers that will indoctrinate you how being a teacher or nurse is the only way to go for women (none of that boy engineering crap), or full of religious crap that means that though they're teaching well, they're also brainwashing girls into wanting to cook for your husband, stay at home, marry, have kids, etc.

I was happy to study in co-ed schools for the simple reason that I knew I was studying the same as the boys. I know this isn't a concern in the west now, but that's just my instinctive reaction. Considering that this isn't an issue here, I think it'd be great for girls to have their own spaces, if this issue can be avoided.

It does amuse me though how so many people used to think boys were better at a myriad of things, but once we got a semblance of equality, they lose every single time academically.

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