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Woman is raped by husband two months after getting a double mastectomy due to breast cancer - Clover - Sep 05 2024
Reddit post on r/AITAH: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1f9v82e/aitah_i_want_a_divorce/
Temporary_Wealth_534 Throwaway for privacy.
I (45F) had a double mastectomy due to breast cancer. Two months later, my husband (45M) demands we have sex because “it’s been too long”. He basically issued an ultimatum. So I finally agreed but asked him to not touch my chest. I had tissue expanders in and everything there was extremely sore.
He agreed but in the middle of sex he started grabbing my chest. It hurt. I begged him to stop. He didn’t listen to me, just kept going.
I’ve been trying to forgive and forget and move past it but I can’t. I told him I want a divorce and applied for an apartment. He tells me I’m being dramatic and that he didn’t cause any permanent damage. I don’t think I can ever trust him again. My family is telling me I’m overreacting, that men have needs. That’s the only reason I’m here. They’re telling me that expecting my husband to honor that boundary was unrealistic.
AITAH?
An edit by OP later:
Temporary_Wealth_534 Update: An apartment is opening up next week. I’ll take the day off and move out while he’s at work. Thanks everyone for supporting me. I’m so glad I didn’t quit my job like he wanted me to when I found out I have cancer. I would have been stuck with him.