What South Korea’s ‘Queen of 4B’ Wants Americans to Know
What South Korea’s ‘Queen of 4B’ Wants Americans to Know
Mar 23 2025, 3:18 PM
(Dec 19 2024, 3:17 PM)komorebi (Disclaimer, bisexual here, and my opinion's just my own. 😂)
I get how they arrived at the term "political lesbianism," but I don't like the words they chose. Especially because of gender crap, which is a separate but related issue, I think it's important for the definition of "lesbian" to be a woman who's exclusively attracted to other women. Any bending of that definition creates room to pressure lesbian women into sex with men.
I don't want to call it "biphobia" because that's so dramatic, but I do think that women who are attracted to men and also willing to partner with women should just call themselves bisexual, there's no need to go stealing the word "lesbian." Being bi, I have always made sense of things this way. If I partner with a woman, I'm still bisexual, and if I partner with a man, I'm still bisexual. 🤣 But to be fair, I think societal discourse at large has always been kinda like this (as in you're either straight or gay, no inbetween), so it makes sense that people get tripped up by it.
In terms of the actual practice, I have no objections to it whatsoever. The more women who cut men out of their lives, the better, probably. As long as they are straight-up with other wlw and don't call themselves "lesbians," I don't see the problem with it.
I am late to this discussion but I would like to comment. For point of reference, I am an older heterosexual woman, married to a disabled man, so please excuse any ignorance on my part.
One of my friends has lived as a heterosexual for many decades. She recently decided she is a “lesbian” after a brief affair with another woman, her first such relationship. When I suggested that she is possibly bisexual, she got mildly offended.
Another of my friends, a widow after 40 years of marriage to a man, decided to date a woman. She generally acknowledges that she is bisexual, although sometimes she too refers to herself as a lesbian.
There is apparently some weird stigma amongst some people to being bisexual. Why, I cannot understand. But it is there, and it is real.
(Dec 19 2024, 3:17 PM)komorebi (Disclaimer, bisexual here, and my opinion's just my own. 😂)
I get how they arrived at the term "political lesbianism," but I don't like the words they chose. Especially because of gender crap, which is a separate but related issue, I think it's important for the definition of "lesbian" to be a woman who's exclusively attracted to other women. Any bending of that definition creates room to pressure lesbian women into sex with men.
I don't want to call it "biphobia" because that's so dramatic, but I do think that women who are attracted to men and also willing to partner with women should just call themselves bisexual, there's no need to go stealing the word "lesbian." Being bi, I have always made sense of things this way. If I partner with a woman, I'm still bisexual, and if I partner with a man, I'm still bisexual. 🤣 But to be fair, I think societal discourse at large has always been kinda like this (as in you're either straight or gay, no inbetween), so it makes sense that people get tripped up by it.
In terms of the actual practice, I have no objections to it whatsoever. The more women who cut men out of their lives, the better, probably. As long as they are straight-up with other wlw and don't call themselves "lesbians," I don't see the problem with it.
I am late to this discussion but I would like to comment. For point of reference, I am an older heterosexual woman, married to a disabled man, so please excuse any ignorance on my part.
One of my friends has lived as a heterosexual for many decades. She recently decided she is a “lesbian” after a brief affair with another woman, her first such relationship. When I suggested that she is possibly bisexual, she got mildly offended.
Another of my friends, a widow after 40 years of marriage to a man, decided to date a woman. She generally acknowledges that she is bisexual, although sometimes she too refers to herself as a lesbian.
There is apparently some weird stigma amongst some people to being bisexual. Why, I cannot understand. But it is there, and it is real.
