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Feb 11 2025, 12:13 PM
#12
Wandering_Feminist56 I saw a comment that stuck with me, it was saying that a lot of users are sanctimoniously arguing from a place of privilege: THEY could afford to place the definition of woman, no matter what else comes with it, over abortion and contraception access. Maybe they're of an age where it personally doesn't matter anymore or some other reason, but being perfectly fine with helping to take away access to reproductive control is imo a massive, absolutely massive betrayal of women.
Yoooooo, that might have been me. 👀 At least, I definitely remember getting frustrated and plainly stating something like that, at least twice in two separate instances. And I still stand by it. If "trans" is a woman's number one issue in her life, then I'm sorry but she must have quite the privileged life. [1] If "trans" is a woman's number one issue
and is why she supported and voted for Trump, then I think that woman definitely has an extremely privileged sheltered life and is absolutely not a fucking feminist ally. [1] This is fucking ridiculous to even have to claim. (I could even go further on this in regards to seeing the privilege in the specific women's topics they focus on that are affected by transgenderism.) [2]
eyeswideopen Abortion restrictions/banning kill and injure thousands of women each year. Gender id, as bad as it is, will never see that kind of death/injury toll. If you can seriously say gender id is more important than the physical control over our own bodies and reproduction, you can not call yourself a feminist, radical or otherwise.
💯 And I was so sick of hostility for pointing this out. PuRiTy SpiRaLs!! GaTeKeEpiNg!! (Listen, do words have meaning or do they fucking not?? If a feminist is anyone who calls themselves a feminist, then why can't a woman be anyone who calls themselves a woman? Rules for thee, but not for me.) Not that it even mattered. I learned that before the election, as soon as I pointed out the actual physical dangers women are going to be put under with a misogynistic forced-birth women-as-incubators administration, the people I'd be arguing against would quietly slink away, only to go pop up and rabble-rouse about the evil woke trans and how Trump is our only hope to save women in some other thread. 🙄 Y'all feeling saved, ladies?
Adding "nuance"/more detail in footnotes.
[1] Okay, so there are actually a few valid reasons I would see bringing up trans as the number one issue. Off the top of my head, men in women's jails/prisons and domestic violence shelters. These are valid points to bring up,
if you are a woman in jail/prison or are a woman needing a DV shelter. And yet, I do not see the first one (women's prisons) brought up very often, the second brought up a bit more but still is not their target concern from what I can tell. So then the issue I have is, men in these women's spaces is a symptom of a larger problem! There are root problems: terrible prison conditions (that certainly the right-wing does not give a shit about since they do not view prisons as a place for rehabilitation but a place for punishment); and also of the fact women exist in a societal culture where men think they can rape and abuse women! And is the right-wing the party that cares about domestic violence/violence against women? No! Some states won't even let women abort a pregnancy caused by a rapist and even give the rapist "parental rights"! From my view the men in these women's spaces are the sign of a larger problem: systemic misogyny. Does the right-wing really care about misogyny, systemic
or otherwise? No!! They don't even give it surface-level discouragement!
Alao, men in women's bathrooms are another point, that is more common to be experienced by many women. This is also valid. And yet again, the problem goes deeper, the problem is male entitlement. And also, I have noticed that the attempt to offer the solution of gender neutral bathrooms, European style where there are individual completely private stalls with full doors and no gaps anywhere and public shared sink/handwashing areas, are met with a tepid response. Which suggests to me they don't care about mutually beneficial solutions to modern gender politics issues, they just want to rant about men in dresses in shittily-designed American bathrooms.
[2] Some of my opinions here might be unpopular/controversial but that's just how it be. There are two areas where men in women's spaces are brought up that reek of sheltered/privileged lives to me and they are: 1.) women's sports and 2.) beauty pageants.
For women's sports, I do think men in women's sports is a serious concern and it causes physical injury to women and is not right. Of course it's not right. But organized sports activities are a
recreational activity. Yeah, sometimes they can end up as a career but honestly I view it the same as an actress—it is a career that comes about when "life is good" (generally speaking). There is not a strict demand for such a career. And even non-professionally, girls sports. They are fucking expensive and require committed supportive parents who can afford sports equipment and transportation to and from sporting activities. Idk how many times I need to add various disclaimers in this paragraph that things like girls losing scholarships thanks to entitled boys who have a physical unfair advantage in a sport is completely wrong, and at the same time, am I really supposed to weigh that equally to women dying bleeding out in hospitals because the conservative government in their state declared that a medically necessary abortions to ectopic pregnancies are illegal?! I just... give me a fucking break. (Disclaimer: I will say I am biased here because I am not an athletic person and could not give less of a fuck about sports in general, so make of that what you will.)
And beauty pageants, good fucking god. The few times I have seen news about TIMs win beauty pageants that were posted about in Ovarit, I pointed out how they were rightfully decimating a misogynistic practice and shouldn't exist in the first place. And sometimes I would get responses of "well some women need the money from them so this hurts women." And this shows to me an act of completely missing the forest for the trees and not realizing how utterly degrading and misogynistic these "competitions" are in the first place?! It reminds me of the libfem "well some women feel better wearing makeup" defense of beauty culture. So fucking what?! This does not address the root issue of a society that demeans female people since birth for their "requirement" to have demure, coquette, and beautiful appearances! (Disclaimer: I'm probably biased here too cuz I'm an uggo.
Joking but not joking.)
In the end, both of these topics I have just ranted about I see a decent amount brought up on Ovarit, especially the sports one, and it's just like... To me... The most excessive of the excess of what transgenderism is doing to women's rights. I'm just saying, if these are the issues women who are anti-trans have... privileged... imo.
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I felt happy because yay teamwork. And I assume that's how people feel when they find a sport they like and get to work together. That day, I told my friend (who was also playing on my team) that I was interested in signing up for volleyball (ridiculously unheard of and uncharacteristic of video-game-loving lazy couchpotato me) and she was encouraging and said she'd sign up too. Yay. I told the coach about my interest aaannddd... he told me I needed to get a physical. I asked if that was something the school provided? He said no, that I'd have to go to the doctor and get a physical. Well, being from a low-income immigrant family, we did not have a doctor, because we did not go to the hospitals or doctors, because we did not have insurance (before Obamacare), and because we did not have money. So there ended my athletics experience. Paywalled. Not even by sports equipment, but just by the fact our fucked up country is a for-profit healthcare nightmare and it costs money for a physical.