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Article ‘I don’t date at all now’: one woman’s journey into the darkest corners of the manosphere

Article ‘I don’t date at all now’: one woman’s journey into the darkest corners of the manosphere

 
Apr 30 2025, 11:38 AM
#1
(I wasn't really sure where to post this, but the article is worth reading)

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/apr/30/i-dont-date-at-all-now-one-womans-journey-into-the-darkest-corners-of-the-manosphere

I honestly am grateful that celibacy has never seemed like a burden to me and that I'm very happy being single. I know there are good men out there, but I feel the chances of getting a bad one are so much higher nowadays.

Quote:Davies saw things she almost wishes she hadn’t. A game called “Risk”, for example, which has various versions but the premise is that someone posts a woman’s picture and if someone else “catches” it – by responding within five minutes – the original poster has to give him the woman’s full name and socials. One man was “risking” pictures of his mate’s wife and daughter. When asked how his own wife would react if she knew, he replied: “Divorce, no questions asked. She’s a bit of a prude. The risk makes it hotter somehow.”
Her book describes several games like this. In “Captions” someone posts a picture and the real name of a woman and others create detailed captions, usually involving violent rape and humiliation fantasies. In “Make Me Ashamed” someone posts a picture of his mum, for example, and invites the most graphic response in order to make him regret it. She sees cybermobbings play out: someone posts a picture of a girl with freckles and “kind brown eyes” along with her contact details and the instruction, “Go ruin her”. Others add, “Let her know she’s a wh*re” and “Tell her how she needs to get fucked”. At this point, Davies says, looking at this gently smiling, oblivious girl, she felt a crushing weight on her chest.

Millions of Dominique Pelicots out there.
Edited Apr 30 2025, 11:42 AM by eyeswideopen.
eyeswideopen
Apr 30 2025, 11:38 AM #1

(I wasn't really sure where to post this, but the article is worth reading)

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/apr/30/i-dont-date-at-all-now-one-womans-journey-into-the-darkest-corners-of-the-manosphere

I honestly am grateful that celibacy has never seemed like a burden to me and that I'm very happy being single. I know there are good men out there, but I feel the chances of getting a bad one are so much higher nowadays.

Quote:Davies saw things she almost wishes she hadn’t. A game called “Risk”, for example, which has various versions but the premise is that someone posts a woman’s picture and if someone else “catches” it – by responding within five minutes – the original poster has to give him the woman’s full name and socials. One man was “risking” pictures of his mate’s wife and daughter. When asked how his own wife would react if she knew, he replied: “Divorce, no questions asked. She’s a bit of a prude. The risk makes it hotter somehow.”
Her book describes several games like this. In “Captions” someone posts a picture and the real name of a woman and others create detailed captions, usually involving violent rape and humiliation fantasies. In “Make Me Ashamed” someone posts a picture of his mum, for example, and invites the most graphic response in order to make him regret it. She sees cybermobbings play out: someone posts a picture of a girl with freckles and “kind brown eyes” along with her contact details and the instruction, “Go ruin her”. Others add, “Let her know she’s a wh*re” and “Tell her how she needs to get fucked”. At this point, Davies says, looking at this gently smiling, oblivious girl, she felt a crushing weight on her chest.

Millions of Dominique Pelicots out there.

komorebi
“I am not free while any woman is unfree, even when her shackles are very different from my own.” – Audre Lorde
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Apr 30 2025, 11:48 AM
#2
Thanks for the share, eyeswideopen.

This poor woman. I hope she's in a better place now. She could have just stepped away from it all; it's brave of her to campaign and try to help other women in similar situations.

Her book is called No One Wants to See Your D*ck: A Handbook for Survival in the Digital World and will be published on May 8. The Guardian has a link to buy it at their bookshop here. It looks like the ebook is available from various outlets. I'mma make a note to pick up a copy.
Edited Apr 30 2025, 11:49 AM by komorebi.
komorebi
“I am not free while any woman is unfree, even when her shackles are very different from my own.” – Audre Lorde
Apr 30 2025, 11:48 AM #2

Thanks for the share, eyeswideopen.

This poor woman. I hope she's in a better place now. She could have just stepped away from it all; it's brave of her to campaign and try to help other women in similar situations.

Her book is called No One Wants to See Your D*ck: A Handbook for Survival in the Digital World and will be published on May 8. The Guardian has a link to buy it at their bookshop here. It looks like the ebook is available from various outlets. I'mma make a note to pick up a copy.

Apr 30 2025, 11:59 AM
#3
I'm putting together a list of books that I'm going to gove to my three nieces when they graduate from high school that I think will be helpful to them (I certainly wish I had read them before I went to college and even earlier). All of Dworkin, Barcroft's "Why Does He Do That", The Gift of Fear, etc.. Definitely going to include Davies' book as well.
eyeswideopen
Apr 30 2025, 11:59 AM #3

I'm putting together a list of books that I'm going to gove to my three nieces when they graduate from high school that I think will be helpful to them (I certainly wish I had read them before I went to college and even earlier). All of Dworkin, Barcroft's "Why Does He Do That", The Gift of Fear, etc.. Definitely going to include Davies' book as well.

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