Dutch young men more tolerant towards violence against women
Dutch young men more tolerant towards violence against women
Feb 28 2025, 1:42 AM
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February 25, 2025
Young European men tolerate more violence against women than older men, new research shows. Previously, this was the other way around. For example, more than a quarter of men under 45 believe that women often lie about sexual violence or exaggerate the severity of it, compared to 20 percent of older men. A misconception: "In reality, we know that women underreport," reports an author of the study.
The European Institute for Gender Equality (EIGE) published a report on inequality and violence against women yesterday. It concerns a survey among men and women in all European member states on physical and sexual violence, and on negative prejudices about women and how they can lead to violence.
Normalizing violence
For the first time, the group of men under 45 has more negative opinions about women and relationships than the older group. Younger men are most likely to blame victims and tolerate sexual violence against women the most. Within this younger age group, men and women also differ most in their acceptance of all forms of violence against women.
This increase is not without risks. EIGE researchers point out that these kinds of opinions help normalise violence against women. If women are not believed, or if harassment is seen as their own fault, this can lead to more serious physical and sexual violence.
Digital drawing in green and dark purple of a silhouette of a woman with shoulder-length hair and drawings of angry phone messages floating around her
Despite help from authorities, Merel fears her ex: 'He threw my head against the wall'
Merel's ex abused her. She has a restraining order against her ex that is about to expire and she is stuck in a tangle of authorities that can do little.
The data also shows this. For example, 1 in 10 men say they are fine with a man sometimes hitting his wife or girlfriend. And more than 1 in 10 men say that when a woman says 'no' to a sexual act, she means 'yes', because she is playing hard to get.
The idea that women often lie about sexual violence or exaggerate its seriousness (a quarter of European men under 45 believe this) is not true, says one of the researchers: "We know that it occurs more often in reality than in the data. Women often do not report it, because they are afraid of the perpetrator repeating it or fear that the reporting process will retraumatize them." Almost a third of Dutch women who have experienced physical or sexual violence say that they have never told anyone about it.
Pointer has been conducting research into femicide, violence against women and how victims are treated for some time. Member of Parliament Songül Mutluer recently called in Pointer for the appointment of a government commissioner for gender-related violence, among other things to better pick up early signals of violence.
The Netherlands in the data
On some points, the Netherlands stands out. We are in the top 5 of gender equality in Europe. Yet almost 6 in 10 (58 percent) Dutch people in the survey find it acceptable for a man to have control over his wife or girlfriend's finances. This is well above the European average. For comparison: that is much more than in Ireland (21 percent) and almost the same as in Hungary (62 percent).
The Netherlands also stands out when it comes to controlling behavior. A quarter of European men sometimes or always think it is fine for a man to control his partner's behavior and friendships - a third of Dutch men accept this. And Dutch women are also surprisingly open to this: 2 in 10 say they find this kind of control okay.
Furthermore, the Netherlands is one of only five EU countries without a special hotline for women who experience violence. Such a separate telephone line is not mandatory according to the international treaty on violence against women (Istanbul Convention). However, according to the guidelines, you must always be able to speak to someone with specific knowledge or training in this area. And that is still lacking in the Netherlands.
The fact that the Netherlands does not have a specific helpline for women is confirmed by Mariëtte Hamer, government commissioner for sexually transgressive behavior and sexual violence. "Veilig Thuis and Centrum Seksueel Geweld are helplines that can help women who experience sexual and/or domestic violence." Mariëtte Hamer, government commissioner for sexually transgressive behavior and sexual violence, confirms that the Netherlands does not have a specific helpline for women. "Veilig Thuis and Centrum Seksueel Geweld are helplines that can help women who experience sexual and/or domestic violence." However, women cannot always find the right help, according to Hamer. "That is why it is good that the Dutch government is working with various organizations on a joint approach to improve access to help."
If your partner does this, the alarm bells should start ringing
What are the risks of escalating violence in a relationship? And how do you recognize them in time?
Violence against women costs billions
EIGE estimates that violence against women costs the EU around 289 billion euros annually. This does not only involve lost income for women - for example because they are incapacitated by violence or are not allowed to work by their partner - but also missed costs for the business community, healthcare costs, police deployment and more.
Worrying development
Mariëtte Hamer calls the increase in old-fashioned views among young men a worrying development. "We also see internationally that young men are becoming more conservative and young women more progressive, partly due to various online bubbles."
However, there is also positive news, says Hamer. "We know from research that 84 percent of Dutch people believe that everyone has a role to play in tackling sexually transgressive behavior. At the same time, the extensive media attention and the behavioral changes that are required for this also create more resistance and discomfort. People, mostly men, find it difficult to determine: what is still allowed and what is not? This leads to uncertainty and tension, and unfortunately perhaps also the idea that women lie about (sexual) violence, while that is really not based on anything."
Jonge mannen steeds toleranter over geweld tegen vrouwen | KRO-NCRV
This is really bad news but not surprising in the slightest. We're actively moving backwards right now and I'm worried that sooner or later, I'll have to fight for abortion access just like my foremothers... And all the other stuff that women have fought hard for.
We need female solidarity now more than ever and that's also why I'm so incredibly frustrated with the trans madness. It completely deligitimizes feminism and other social causes, but that's for another time. Right now, I think we should invest in educating young girls and women on this, how to recognize manipulation and the early stages of abuse, what to do in that case, and so on. And for Christ's sake, do something about the useless police!
In any case, I think this is happening all over the world. It can't be helping that the Tate brothers are literally being rewarded for their heinous behaviour.
Wandering_Feminist56
Feb 28 2025, 1:42 AM #1Quote:Young men increasingly tolerant of violence against women[url=https://pointer.kro-ncrv.nl/jonge-mannen-steeds-toleranter-over-geweld-tegen-vrouwen][/url]
February 25, 2025
Young European men tolerate more violence against women than older men, new research shows. Previously, this was the other way around. For example, more than a quarter of men under 45 believe that women often lie about sexual violence or exaggerate the severity of it, compared to 20 percent of older men. A misconception: "In reality, we know that women underreport," reports an author of the study.
The European Institute for Gender Equality (EIGE) published a report on inequality and violence against women yesterday. It concerns a survey among men and women in all European member states on physical and sexual violence, and on negative prejudices about women and how they can lead to violence.
Normalizing violence
For the first time, the group of men under 45 has more negative opinions about women and relationships than the older group. Younger men are most likely to blame victims and tolerate sexual violence against women the most. Within this younger age group, men and women also differ most in their acceptance of all forms of violence against women.
This increase is not without risks. EIGE researchers point out that these kinds of opinions help normalise violence against women. If women are not believed, or if harassment is seen as their own fault, this can lead to more serious physical and sexual violence.
Digital drawing in green and dark purple of a silhouette of a woman with shoulder-length hair and drawings of angry phone messages floating around her
Despite help from authorities, Merel fears her ex: 'He threw my head against the wall'
Merel's ex abused her. She has a restraining order against her ex that is about to expire and she is stuck in a tangle of authorities that can do little.
The data also shows this. For example, 1 in 10 men say they are fine with a man sometimes hitting his wife or girlfriend. And more than 1 in 10 men say that when a woman says 'no' to a sexual act, she means 'yes', because she is playing hard to get.
The idea that women often lie about sexual violence or exaggerate its seriousness (a quarter of European men under 45 believe this) is not true, says one of the researchers: "We know that it occurs more often in reality than in the data. Women often do not report it, because they are afraid of the perpetrator repeating it or fear that the reporting process will retraumatize them." Almost a third of Dutch women who have experienced physical or sexual violence say that they have never told anyone about it.
Pointer has been conducting research into femicide, violence against women and how victims are treated for some time. Member of Parliament Songül Mutluer recently called in Pointer for the appointment of a government commissioner for gender-related violence, among other things to better pick up early signals of violence.
The Netherlands in the data
On some points, the Netherlands stands out. We are in the top 5 of gender equality in Europe. Yet almost 6 in 10 (58 percent) Dutch people in the survey find it acceptable for a man to have control over his wife or girlfriend's finances. This is well above the European average. For comparison: that is much more than in Ireland (21 percent) and almost the same as in Hungary (62 percent).
The Netherlands also stands out when it comes to controlling behavior. A quarter of European men sometimes or always think it is fine for a man to control his partner's behavior and friendships - a third of Dutch men accept this. And Dutch women are also surprisingly open to this: 2 in 10 say they find this kind of control okay.
Furthermore, the Netherlands is one of only five EU countries without a special hotline for women who experience violence. Such a separate telephone line is not mandatory according to the international treaty on violence against women (Istanbul Convention). However, according to the guidelines, you must always be able to speak to someone with specific knowledge or training in this area. And that is still lacking in the Netherlands.
The fact that the Netherlands does not have a specific helpline for women is confirmed by Mariëtte Hamer, government commissioner for sexually transgressive behavior and sexual violence. "Veilig Thuis and Centrum Seksueel Geweld are helplines that can help women who experience sexual and/or domestic violence." Mariëtte Hamer, government commissioner for sexually transgressive behavior and sexual violence, confirms that the Netherlands does not have a specific helpline for women. "Veilig Thuis and Centrum Seksueel Geweld are helplines that can help women who experience sexual and/or domestic violence." However, women cannot always find the right help, according to Hamer. "That is why it is good that the Dutch government is working with various organizations on a joint approach to improve access to help."
If your partner does this, the alarm bells should start ringing
What are the risks of escalating violence in a relationship? And how do you recognize them in time?
Violence against women costs billions
EIGE estimates that violence against women costs the EU around 289 billion euros annually. This does not only involve lost income for women - for example because they are incapacitated by violence or are not allowed to work by their partner - but also missed costs for the business community, healthcare costs, police deployment and more.
Worrying development
Mariëtte Hamer calls the increase in old-fashioned views among young men a worrying development. "We also see internationally that young men are becoming more conservative and young women more progressive, partly due to various online bubbles."
However, there is also positive news, says Hamer. "We know from research that 84 percent of Dutch people believe that everyone has a role to play in tackling sexually transgressive behavior. At the same time, the extensive media attention and the behavioral changes that are required for this also create more resistance and discomfort. People, mostly men, find it difficult to determine: what is still allowed and what is not? This leads to uncertainty and tension, and unfortunately perhaps also the idea that women lie about (sexual) violence, while that is really not based on anything."
Jonge mannen steeds toleranter over geweld tegen vrouwen | KRO-NCRV
This is really bad news but not surprising in the slightest. We're actively moving backwards right now and I'm worried that sooner or later, I'll have to fight for abortion access just like my foremothers... And all the other stuff that women have fought hard for.
We need female solidarity now more than ever and that's also why I'm so incredibly frustrated with the trans madness. It completely deligitimizes feminism and other social causes, but that's for another time. Right now, I think we should invest in educating young girls and women on this, how to recognize manipulation and the early stages of abuse, what to do in that case, and so on. And for Christ's sake, do something about the useless police!
In any case, I think this is happening all over the world. It can't be helping that the Tate brothers are literally being rewarded for their heinous behaviour.
