Bahhh 💜🐐
Nov 21 2025, 5:45 PM
#15
Well. I guess it's time to Be A Mod™. The initial interaction between WrongToy and Impress Polly is a perfect instance of why I cannot stand "rule-lawyer robot" style modding. If we just went off the forum rules verbatim, Polly would be the only one technically/literally in the "wrong." But, since I don't like rigidly enforced "rule-lawyer robot modding"...
The issue I see here is a long-standing trend of one user periodically derailing threads with low effort comments that annoy other users, commonly ending up with various users getting frustrated and upset by the derailment and, often times, dismissive nature of the topic being discussed in the thread. I find this somewhat similar to the spiral of unfruitful discussions on Vexxed/Ovarit I've observed, where shitposting regulars can continuously post a dripfeed of ragebait that causes other users to "lose their shit", and then the "other users" are the ones who get in trouble. I'm not interested in encouraging that spiral of trashposting culture.
@WrongToy: this isn't the first time you've derailed threads on the forum, often by minimizing some forms of misogyny. Truthfully, I don't think your initial post in this thread was your "worst" offending post in regards to potential derailing, but I think this is now "2 for 2" on you responding to "calls for actions" on trying to help female people in some way by dismissing/derailing the call to action. The first one was regarding poo-pooing women's efforts to teach English and career skills to women in Afghanistan, where mod action was taken to split your derailing comments into a different thread.
In addition to this, I recall instances of taking criticism of beauty culture and internalized misogyny personally and various slights against women who criticize countries that enforce misogynistic hijab laws and minimizing said misogyny, or slights against Western women volunteering in education programs for Afghani women. [1: "I’m done with their orientalist perspective on how the only thing that matters is the headgear Muslim women wear. Which is always anti feminist according to them.", 2: "But no, this is all about SCARF liberation.", 3: further later comments in that thread continuing to put misogynistic hijab laws vs. Palestinian humanitarian aide crisis in an artificial dichotomy, 4: "The cute little flyers contests urging white western women to mentor teenage girls in English is atrociously dangerous to said girls.", 5: Whatever this comment was, encouragement of reenacting a Handmaid's Tale in Afghanistan..?, 6: more... encouragement of reenacting a Handmaid's Tale in Afghanistan..?] Which you have since done again in this thread with your later comments with LeftFem, seemingly minimizing the fact this Iranian woman is on death row because... Israeli spies, Israel bad, Zionists...? You don't need to shoehorn these topics into every single thread.
TL;DR - Right now, in my mod perspective, you are on thin ice. Not because of just this thread, but because of the overall behaviors listed above; derailing threads and minimizing/dismissing feminist issues that other members find important in favor of prioritizing your own. Continuing the aforementioned behaviors shall result in membership revocation.
@Impress Polly: well... you know your post breaks the forum rules. 🫠 I do sympathize with getting tired of derailments/low effort content. So... spiderman-everybody-gets-one.mov
@everyone: I will say I generally don't want to encourage a culture of insults/personal attacks/etc. on this forum, but... eh. I don't have all the answers. I'm a biased human being; I don't know how to mod "perfectly," if such a thing even exists. I'm aware of that when making this call. As of this moment, I'm more in favor of calling out derailing content/demoralizing behaviors over "rule-lawyering" about civility. That being said, for any member reading, please don't use this judgment call as an endorsement to break civility rules to bludgeon people in the future, please still attempt to use good faith, especially if the member is new and does not have a comment history where you have had to continually repeat to yourself "assume good faith, assume good faith" before engaging. I would still prefer we try to handle these situations diplomatically. Admittedly, I don't know the best way to do that right now.
Forum rules enforcement is essentially vibes-based in favor of whatever promotes constructive discourse and helps increase fruitful engagement.
(As a reminder/tip: the Meta forum is available to create discussions on forum culture, forum rules/guidelines, forum rules enforcement, thoughts/feedback/suggestions on moderation practices, am I modding "too much" or "too little", am I too biased in one direction or another, etc. if anyone is ever interested in discussing topics like this any further.)
I'm not splitting this thread yet to move the derailed part of the discussion into another one as of yet, unless either the derailment continues or if people would prefer it be done anyways to let the thread refocus on female political activist Zahra Tabari being at risk of execution by the Iranian government and what people can possibly do to stop it.
@LeftFem: Thank you for trying to bring back the discussion to Zahra Tabari.
WrongToy is a Korean American... [1][2] And LeftFem, one of the people who is accused of "white feminism" in those quotes, is actually someone who was born in Iran and lived near it... [3]